One person, or maybe both,
seems to be always pick, pick picking!
That could also apply
to almost any other relationship.
or could it sometimes be a blessing?
Is there no such thing
as constructive criticism?
but the other person
didn't take it exactly the way you meant it?
Instead of appreciating your criticism,
or at least your effort and good will,
they took it negatively and became defensive.
7:1 ”Do not judge lest you be judged.
2 “For in the way you judge, you will be judged;
and by your standard of measure, it will be measured to you.
3 “And why do you look at the speck that is in your brother’s eye,
but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?
4 “Or how can you say to your brother,
‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’
and behold, the log is in your own eye?
5 “You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye,
and then you will see clearly
to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.
· Just imagine the comedy in seeing someone with a literal log
proceeding from their eye
trying to help someone else with a speck in their eye.
I had been working with a radial-arm saw
building some workbenches.
My eye had an allergic reaction
and the white of my eyeball to swelled up
I was alarmed, to say the least.
and I was grateful to have Betty
to help me find it
and try to get it out.
"If you can't say something nice,
don't say anything at all."
Is that always the best advice?
when they didn't see some danger.
Do you stay silent
for fear of being critical of their driving?
You'll probably say, "Look out!"
· Are you helping or harming them if you speak out?
We all need help seeing our blind spots.
· Of course, Bambi doesn't have the same authority
as the Bible.
But deceitful are the kisses of an enemy."
· When a doctor operates on someone,
it results in a wound.
· Those who have open-heart surgery
will have a scar up their chest
that will be there the rest of their lives.
· Wouldn't that be a faithful wound?
· What if a doctor was afraid of wounding someone
and never told them of their need
to have the surgery done?
· A true friend will tell us something we need
even it it hurts at the time,
That's a faithful wound.
14 And concerning you, my brethren,
I myself also am convinced
that you yourselves are full of goodness,
filled with all knowledge,
and able also to admonish one another.
1. To reprove mildly or kindly
2. To counsel against something; to caution.
]3. To point out something forgotten or disregarded,
by means of a warning, reproof, or exhortation.
Adverse criticism intended to correct.
Admonish stresses advising or warning
so that a fault may be made right
or a danger avoided.
Reprove usually implies gentle criticism
and constructive intent.
Rebuke refers to sharp,
usually angry, criticism,
as does reprimand,
which often also implies
an official or otherwise formal act.